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Friday, February 1, 2013

Their Trouble


Song of Solomon
Chapter 2


In the last several verses of chapter two we will talk a lot about the seasons of the year. These verses will mainly talk about winter and spring. I’m sure each of us has heard at least one comparison between the changing of seasons and the Christian life. Just like there are four seasons to the year, there are four seasons to the Christian life.

Let’s take a minute and see these seasons, or the changes this couple has gone through.

Summer

The summer is the hottest part of the year. This would be the time when she first moved into the palace. In the Christian life this is the time when we are first saved.

When she first gets to the palace they are talking about flowers, or harvest season. No matter what time of year you are saved, that is harvest time in your life. Your life is the harvest. Things are exciting. New life, new love and new living have come your way. So it was with this couple.

Fall

After the summer comes the fall. After she talked about the flowers, she began to talk about trees. The thing that make my part, east Tennessee, of the country so beautiful in the fall are the trees. People will travel from all around to see the leaves on the trees.

Fall is beautiful at first because things are bright and colorful. The reason that the leaves change however is because they are dying. After they turn orange and red, they turn brown and fall off.

This happens to all of us. There comes a time in our lives when cold wind blows, we grow cold on God and we begin to dry up spiritually. Maybe we become cold and critical of others. We dry up on the inside.

This happens in a marriage as well. We can lie and say that we have been on a honeymoon for 50 years, but that simply is not true. Each of us experience times when things are not as “warm” as they used to be. This begins to happen in our happy couple in the scriptures.

Winter

Of course winter follows fall. Have you ever been to the point in your life where everything just seems dead? You may not realize it but you are in the winter season of your life. “This Sunday school is just so dead lately.” “This church is just so dead.” Some of us even begin to wander if the sun will ever shine in our lives again. We long for the warmth of the relationship we once had.

I’m afraid that too many give up in those times. They abandon God, the church and their bible.

In our society one in two marriages ends in divorce. In the hard times of a marriage many are just simply giving up. They decide there is no use to go on.

I want to encourage you. If you are in the winter part of your life, just hold on, spring is coming. The flowers will bloom again in your life if you will just hold on.

Obviously this woman is in the winter part of her life. Their marriage is going through the winter. From these next verses it seems that she has gone back down to the vineyard. I don’t know why. Maybe she went to check on her family. Maybe she only meant to stay a few days. But hours have turned to days and days turn into months.

This woman stays at the vineyard so long that she begins to get used to being away from Solomon. She is sleeping in her old bed. In fact that is where we find her in verse eight. She has learned that she can get along without him, but we will see that he cannot get along with her.

When you read verse 8 this woman is lying in her bed when she hears something that she has not heard in some time. She hears the voice of her beloved. Notice what she says in this verse. “He cometh leaping upon the mountains.”

Mountains divide people. These mountains are a wonderful picture of the things that separate us. Maybe we are separated from God. Maybe we are separated from our spouse.

Whatever it is that is separating her and her beloved must be big in her eyes. She describes them as “mountains.” I want you to notice that the things separating them are mountains in her eyes, but they are not a problem for her beloved. He comes “leaping” on the mountains.

Each of us has been in this winter part of our life. We have grown cold on God. We have grown cold in our marriage. In those times we look and say, “There are just too many problems.” “There is just too much standing between us.” Please keep in mind that the things that look like mountains to you, God will come leaping on. Nothing is too big for God!

Do you remember the story of the disciples on the water? The wind and waves were over their head. They just knew they were going to be consumed by this storm. Just when they think they are going down Jesus comes walking on the water. The waves that were over their heads were under His feet.

In verse 9 Solomon has come to look for her. She has heard his voice, now she sees him. She can’t see him good at first because he is behind the wall, but he moves closer.

Then he presses his face up to the glass. He peeps at her from behind the lattice. Here she is, away from her love, in the winter of her life, but he does not forget about her. He comes looking for her. In fact he was willing to come all the way back down to the vineyard to find her.

Sometimes God has to go a long way to find us. In fact there have been times when he had to come all the way back to the place where he first saved us. But he is willing to do that in order to bring us back home.

In verses 10 through 13 Solomon speaks to her. He tells her to rise up. She has been in the vineyard for way to long. It was time to come back home.

Notice that he does not fuss at her. He had every right to point his finger and confront her. He could have said, “I have saved you. Taken you away from this place and moved you into my palace. I loved you and this is how you repay me.” Instead he says “Rise up, my love, my fair one, and come away.”

I also want you to notice that while her feelings may have changed, his feelings have not changed. He is still using the same words he used in chapter one.

How about you today? Today may be the last day of winter in your life. Today could be the day that God allows the flowers to bloom in your life again. Maybe you are cold spiritually. Maybe your marriage has grown cold. God could come leaping on the mountains in your life today. Today could be the day he says:

“Rise up, my love, my fair one, and come away. For, lo, the winter is past, the rain is over and gone; The flowers appear on the earth; the time of the singing of birds is come, and the voice of the turtle is heard in our land;”

Solomon warns in verse 15 about the small foxes. Although their relationship is back together, they must set up safe guards so this does not happen again. The foxes are the things that come into our lives and spoil our relationships.

When a relationship is just becoming fruitful again we must be careful. At this turning point it is easy for something to come along and spoil all that has been accomplished. Notice that many times it is a small thing that has to be guarded against. A fox is a small animal, but it will ruin a vine.

In our relationship with God and in our marriage we have to put up guards. Maybe today you restore your relationship with God. Maybe you and your spouse restore your marriage. Be careful because a little thing will want to creep in and destroy that new fruit.

The chapter ends with a wonderful statement and a terrible mistake. She is now able to say something that she has not been able to say in some time. “My beloved is mine, and I am his:” That is a wonderful statement.

She also makes a terrible mistake. This mistake will take us into chapter three. In my next blog I will explain the mistake and the result of making the mistake.

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Monday, December 10, 2012

The Book No One Talks About


The Song of Solomon


I would like for you to notice that this book is in reality a song. This however is not just any song; this is the “Song of Songs.” According to 1 Kings 4:32, Solomon wrote 3,000 proverbs and 1,005 songs. We are not given a record of most of Solomon’s songs, but we are given this one.

If I was to ask you what the greatest song ever written was, what would you answer? Maybe “Amazing Grace?” According to this verse the greatest song is Solomon’s song.

Let me illustrate the greatness of this song. In the book of Ecclesiastes several times the phrase “vanity of vanities” is mentioned. This is reference to the vanity of the world. There is no vanity like the vanity of this world.

In Israel there was a place behind the veil in the temple referred to as the “holy of holies.” There was no place quite as holy as that place.

In the book of Revelation, Jesus is called the “King of kings” and the “Lord of lords.” There is no king; no lord like Jesus is king and lord. Even so there is no song quite as great as Solomon’s song.

This small book, or song, is one of the most neglected books in the entire bible. Some claim that this book is too hard to understand, and some go as far as to say it does not belong in the canyon of the scriptures.

I will say this. This book is not for the carnally minded. This book can certainly be misunderstood, and mistreated if not properly understood.

There are many different reasons that this book is so neglected. Let me mention the three main reasons given for avoiding the Song of Solomon:

“It is difficult to know who is talking.” In one verse the bridegroom will speak and in the next the bride will speak using almost the same words. Because this book is a little difficult to follow most simply avoid it altogether. 

This book isn’t like one of the epistles of Paul. Paul wrote in letter form. He began with a greeting, moved from point to point and closed. Because of this difficulty most will not even attempt to study this short book. 

I would like to point out that it is not as important whether Solomon or the Shulamite is talking. The important thing is that God is speaking to us through His word. God has given us a wonderful treasure, and those that avoid it are missing out on the blessings of God.

“This book is too intimate.” The fact is that this is a record of two people who are madly in love with each other. They do the things an in love married couple does. Some of the things mentioned here could be embarrassing for some to read in a mixed congregation. In fact years ago the Jews would not allow their young men to read this book before the age of 13. 

I would like to say that ALL scriptures are given by inspiration of God. Surely you do not think that God would allow something inappropriate in His word. The truth is that we watch things on television that are far more graphic than the words recorded in this book. God speaks in terms that we can understand. This book upholds the beauty of a loving marriage. It is also a wonderful picture of Christ and his church. God would not allow anything in the scriptures that would be inappropriate for us to read.

“I don’t understand the illustrations.” Some of the illustrations used in this book are a little different that the ones we use today. For example in chapter two the bride says to Solomon, “Stay with me flagons.” What in the world are “flagons?” A flagon is sweet cake. She is basically saying that Solomon was something sweet and she didn’t want to run out. In chapter four Solomon tells her that her hair is like a flock of goats and her neck is like a tower. A little study will reveal the meaning of these verses, and we will soon understand the beauty of these words.

Instead of avoiding this book God intends for us to embrace, and learn from this story. This book sets for 4 wonderful principals.

The love between a husband and a wife. Today society knows a lot about sex, but very little about love. Our school teaches our children how to have safe sex, but not how to wait until they have married the one they love. The Song of Solomon will teach us about true love.

I believe that each of us can learn from the examples in this book. Let’s not kid ourselves into thinking we have a perfect marriage or relationship. I will be honest in saying that I struggled in studying this book. God impressed some things upon my heart. With an open mind and heart maybe we can learn from this couple.

The love between Jehovah and Israel. This is a principal found many times in the Old Testament. And it is pictured for us here in this book.

The love between Christ and His church. This book reminds me of Ephesians 5 which teaches us the same principal in a compact form. While I do not believe a person should attempt to find hidden meaning in these verses (which many do). I do believe however that we see a type in these scriptures of the love between Christ and his bride the church. This is something we will be paying a lot of attention to over the next several weeks.

The love between Christ and individuals. Christ not only wants to have a relationship with the church, He wants a relationship with you. Let us never lose sight of the fact that the church is made up of individual believers. It was not a collective group that Christ died for, but a bunch of individuals. God wants you. He loves you. He wants a relationship with you.

Over the next several weeks we will go through this short book. With the help of God, and an open heart we will learn how to better love our Savior. We will also learn how to better love our spouse.

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